Quentin will be turning 4 months on the 29th and I'm just down. I don't know what's wrong. I can't seem to get up and get dressed. I don't see the point in dressing cool or looking good when I just sit home all day with a baby. You know? I get baby drool, poo and puke on me.
I know, I know, do it for myself. But it just makes me depressed to get all fancy for nothing. And I tried doing it for Michael, but he's a man. He just says "Hey babe, you look good" kisses me and that's it. I can't expect him to just appreciate my stylish self all evening.
Oh well. I guess I have the winter-post-baby-hate-my-body-blues. That and we have been having a rough beginning of this year. Gonna try to stay positive!
Think of something that makes you happy and try to implement it into your life a little bit more each day! :)
ReplyDeleteI've been in the same boat for a while now :( It's so hard being a mom, especially the first time around. You end up giving up so much of yourself to the kids that you forget to take care of yourself too. Try and get out of the house as much as possible! I've been stranded at home with my 2 year old M-F for the last couple weeks and am MISERABLE. Totally missing our little adventures every day, even if it was just a trip to the grocery store for milk. Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteI feel you! It's ok. We're soooo awesome, even in mommy sweat pants and baby poop!!!!
ReplyDeleteI love you. It gets better, I promise.
ReplyDeletei think i have had it for the past two years (going on three) but i don't want to admit it to the world or get myself help. i kinda feel lame for going to a doctor to tell him i feel sad when i know i have so much to be happy about. people who are sad but have nothing to be sad about is just ironic. it's just a weird concept that i don't get. i have no doubt it's real because i am living it but i just think that maybe one day i will wake up and be fine. i love my kids, but life as a stay at home mom is kinda boring too sometimes. somedays i feel like i am just a wandering zombie trying to fulfill some kind of empty void but i don't really know what it is. ugh! i definitely know that mommy and me groups are not my thing. it gets worse this time of year for me too because i am stuck inside more and bored out of my freaking mind. for goodness sakes, i have started watching greys anatomy and actually love it. rescue me! haha! hope things get better for us both.
ReplyDeleteCome hang with Paige and I next week! Judah and I are joining my husband when he travels to VA beach for work and I love taking him to that little park or my fav coffee place that is across the street from our hotel at the beach :-) girl time is a sure way to kick the mama blues
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As a mommy of two I will say it does get better. It was harder with my first than with my second. I think because everything was so new. The not "doing" anything. I remember sleepless nights (that is no different to now) and trying to be the best mommy to my little girl, and all the feelings of failure. etc.
ReplyDeleteI will say that as of right now I have a 3 1/2 year old and an almost 1 year old and I still spend most days in the clothes I slept in. Which are usually loungey clothes. If I do sleep in pi's then I change into loungey clothes. Some days I get dressed up, most days I don't.
It's still really new. No need to rush it. You'll get your groove back. Just love that little cutie, and cut yourself some slack.
Hey girl, I just wanted to give you some encouragement... first of all, don't beat yourself up over looking cool or not. If YOU want to get up and get dressed, if you miss the creativity of putting an outfit together and make-up on, then do it because it's a "fun activity." Not because you "know you should" or because you feel bad for being in your PJ's.
ReplyDeleteBe gentle with yourself. Growing a baby for 9 months was a huge process for your body, and letting yourself rest and heal for at least 9 months afterwards is healthy. Speak truth about yourself. You are strong. You grew and carried a baby single-handedly. You are beautiful. You carried new life into the world. Not everyone can do this. You did. You bring beauty to every day with your love for your baby, it's a warm glow.
I have had 3 babies, all about 2 years apart. Honestly? The first baby was the most challenging for me mentally. It's a huge lifestyle adjustment. Every decision must be weighed in light of how it will affect the baby, every outing decided in light of nap time.
You're not crazy...it IS an intense time of change and...sitting around a lot! :)
Just realize that your mind is your greatest asset right now, if you will let it help you. Listen to good music, sing, tell your love story to your baby, talk out loud about what your'e thankful for. Tell your baby stories about his family....talk to God.
Keep your chin up, lovely, you are a treasure!